For decades, culture has convinced women that they lose value as they age. Menopause was talked about in hushed tones, and seen as a depressing marker of the end of beauty, function and relevance. It’s not surprising, since medically, this phase is indeed the end of fertility.
It often coincides with when kids leave the nest, and women find themselves suffering from uncomfortable symptoms and struggling to define themselves outside of their roles as mothers. However, women are starting to rewrite their stories, and perimenopause is no longer about what’s lost but what is gained: clarity, freedom and a chance to reclaim womanhood on their own terms.
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Know and own what’s happening to you
Perimenopause can start in your 40s, sometimes earlier, bringing shifts in hormones, mood, energy and cycles. A decrease in libido, hot flashes and emotional turmoil all make you feel undesirable and out of control. Menopause is marked by 12 months without a period, and it’s just one part of the journey. Get informed about what’s happening in your body and make the necessary changes, whether that’s HRT, holistic support or lifestyle shifts.
Redefine, don’t shrink
Many women may feel the impulse to disappear. But many women also report a sense of awakening in midlife. As we age, we don’t care to impress or appeal. Follow the desire to speak more boldly, dress for yourself and stop people-pleasing. Use the time to identify what you really want, and reconnect with the woman beneath the roles.
Prioritise your health
There are new things to consider in midlife: bone density, heart health, and weight shifts. With it comes a chance to start afresh. Make simple changes in your exercise routine, for example, focus on strength training rather than cardio. Adjust your diet, reduce sugar intake and get quality sleep. These small changes can make a huge difference. If you feel you need more support, speak to your doctor about supplements that work for you.
The evolution of beauty
True beauty never fades; it shifts. Fine lines, silver hair and softer, more realistic bodies aren’t signs of fading, but of living. Embrace routines, fashion and beauty products that celebrate the body and skin you’re in now. You get to define what beauty looks like.
Say it loud
More women are sharing stories about perimenopause and menopause, and it’s making a difference. Join WhatsApp groups or support groups that enable you to join the conversation. By talking about it, you break down shame and isolation. Your experience and insight might be what another woman needs to hear.
Rising up
Midlife is a wonderful launchpad for great things. Perimenopause and menopause are not things to ‘get through’, they are phases or opportunities to rise into wisdom and self-respect. It’s a time when you get to shed the parts of you that no longer serve you, and reclaim your true self.
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