You birthed them. You see their beauty as their parent, always. But they may not… Teenage body dysmorphia is real, and it can have serious consequences. Learn what to do when you discover your teenager may suffer from the condition so you can guide them to recovery.
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Concerns regarding appearance are common in the teenage years, as they’re becoming more aware of their bodies in relation to their age mates. But when a young person becomes abnormally preoccupied with flaws (that only they can see) it could indicate a deeper issue known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
What’s more, it can lead to disordered eating with life-threatening consequences. It’s important for parents to recognise the signs and know how to respond that supports their well-being.
Know the signs
Body dysmorphia involves obsessive thoughts about physical appearance and this isn’t noticeable to others. Signs to look out for are if your teenager is excessively checking mirrors, comparing themselves to others, or constantly wanting reassurance about how they look.
Some might avoid social gatherings, having their picture taken, or repeatedly asking if something about their appearance looks ‘wrong’. Other teenagers may try to hide under make-up or clothing.
Approach the conversation with care
If you think your child may be struggling, have a calm and supportive conversation. Avoid dismissing their concerns, even if you can’t see what they see. This might prevent them from opening up. Instead, acknowledge their emotions and reassure them that it’s okay to talk about their experiences. Creating a safe, non-judgemental space is of utmost important.
Encourage professional support
You may have a great relationship with your teenager but body dysmorphia is a mental health condition that needs professional support. Speaking with an expert in this field can give teenagers practical tools and healthier ways to think about their bodies.
Treatments such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy are often used to help those who suffer with negative thought patterns and obsessive behaviours.
Limit comparisons
Social media is a huge culprit in promoting unrealistic body goals. Help your teenager develop a balanced perspective by emphasising that images are overly edited and filtered. Then set healthy boundaries around screen time.
Focus on health and movement, and do activities with your children that focus on positive body goals.
Be supportive and patient
Constant reassurance, understanding and professional guidance can help teenagers slowly develop a healthier relationship with their bodies. So bear in mind that recovery from body dysmorphia is gradual.
Final thoughts
It can be devastating to discover that your child suffers from body dysmorphia because it means they don’t see their uniqueness in the same way you do. You may be tempted to convince them, however forcefully. But remember, you set the tone – remind them that they’re valued for who they are, not just how they look.
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